On Turning 40

Last December 18, 2018, I turned 40. It was an ordinary day, much like any other except for one thing. I realized that it was time for a change.

I don’t know why turning 40 seemed more significant than my previous birthdays but events leading to that may have paved the road to make my journey more meaningful than it ever was before.

In 2018, I finally got to be transferred to a school nearer to my residence. I also transferred my daughter to the same school. This now meant spending more time with her and learning more about her.

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As 2018 slowly passed, I gained new friends (Hello, Team Ugmeme!) and forged deeper friendships with my bestfriends (Jen, Gracielle and Mia) and the Olyotz gang.

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While celebrating my birthday, I learned how love has snuck up on friends and although I was intrigued by the circumstances of how they met, I was not entirely uninterested.

Thus, a new resolve was born.

2019 will be the year I will put myself out there and grab the chance to live and love.

Therefore, my one true love must have all of those on my list. Here’s my list:

  1. He must be older than me.
  2. He must love and fear God.
  3. He must be financially secure, have a stable job or income, steadfast and loyal.
  4. He must be taller than me.
  5. He must be a good man.
  6. He must be a good father and a family man.
  7. He must love, know, respect and honor me.
  8. He must be attractive (to me, anyway).
  9. He is my best friend and my best love.
  10. He has a soul that knows my soul.

Somehow, after having this list, I feel that whoever is out there for me will eventually find me.

This is as clear-cut as it can get. There will be a few snakes out there but I know God will look out for me.

Have a wonderful 2019 to all of us! Cheers!

Off with her head!

The queen of hearts from Alice in wonderland was one of the most unexpected character i have encountered in a story. Maybe because it belies the image of the queen of hearts from a deck of cards. 

I thought for sure that the queen would be kind, beautiful and beloved by all. Lewis Carroll flipped this image and now we have the egomaniacal, ugly and mean queen.

I think Love can be much like the Queen of Hearts. On such an auspicious day like Valentine’s Day, I expected a sweet king of love that can make me go swoon buy instead, what I received was the weird, confusing and disappointing actions from guys. 

The only silver lining was the date I had with my two girlfriends and it was a blast. We talked of life, friends and guys who broke our hearts.

Valentine’s day left me dazed and irritated. It was a pain in the neck. At the end of the day, I distinctly heard the Queen of Hearts and Love shout, “Off with her head!”

36 Questions


So I found out from AsapScience that there are 36 questions that you can ask a stranger that would make you fall in love with him/her. 

After watching a video on this, I tried it with my friends and since the said questions will also make you closer as friends. 

Today, we did the questions and it actually worked. There were some things that were quite vague between us friends and having the intimate exchange allowed us to become closer and clarified a lot of stuff.

Some were expected while others were quite surprising.

What I haven’t tried the questions on would be to answer it with a stranger. I will definitely try it in the future.

You may want to download an app of the 36 questions or you can copy the questions from the YouTube video link from AsapScience.

Let me know if this worked for you, too. Leave me a comment!

A blog post from Facebook

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I’m not at home and due to my age, I can’t recall my password for my blog so here I am, writing on Facebook Notes (I will still upload this on my blog though). Anyway, the past few days has been awesome. My bff Gra celebrated her birthday and my bestfriend Jen arrived from Cebu. It was a wonderful reunion of sorts. Hanz was also there and we simply bonded over dinner and drinks at Lifestyle. 

So what’s new? Nothing much. Gra is still single and looking hot. Jen is newly separated but moving on. Hanz is busy with his business and taking care of us ladies. This week was a week of new discoveries and cautionary tales of woe.

Discovery no. 1 – I’m not dead.

I’m back to blogging and doing some of the things I usually do. Namely, watching romantic anime series, reading books, dancing (okay,still not as much and I have the bulge to prove it), meeting new people and just recently, went to the moviehouse to watch a movie!

Discovery no. 2 – Love is in the air!

For some odd reason, people around me can be found in various stages of love. There’s someone who’s on the verge of falling in love, there’s someone who have lost a love, someone in the throes of passionate love, someone in a bubble-like existence of love, someone who wants to get back an ex-love and there’s me, someone who wants to open the door of love once more.

Discovery no. 3 – Life is a stage…

And aren’t we all actors? Most of us who use different masks to show off a different persona thatn who we truly are. Yet, there are few people like my bffs Gra and Jen who do not use masks nor pretend to be whoever they are not. This is what I love about them. As for me, I’m guilty of putting up a wall instead of a mask. Much like my friends, I’m transparent too. Yet somehow, people see the wall not the person. Weird. 

Tale of Woe no. 1 – Beware of the Players

To start dating, you must know the players. Since I have not dated for more than five years, whatever it is I knew before is meaningless now. Nowadays, I can’t tell a serial dater from a true-blue gentleman. They say the nicest stuff and sound oh so sophisticated and simply attractive but then somehow they turn to sleazebags! What’s wrong with you, guys?

Tale of Woe no. 2 – Broken People

People who have had their hearts broken can sometimes simply stay that way, broken. Too broken up that they can’t see there’s someone better, someone good for them. Sometimes, they feel that they don’t deserve to be happy anymore. However, that’s totally wrong. We all deserve happiness and it may not be with the person who broke your heart but there’s someone out there for you and me. 

Tale of Woe no. 3 – Rejection

There’s this risk we need to take. To offer ourselves to life and to love. The downside of this plan is that you might get rejected. Whether it’s your dream job, your dreamlover, your family, etc. rejection can make the world fall down around you. It can bring you to your knees and bleed you to oblivion. But this should not stop us from trying again. To fail makes you humble. To try once more makes you wise.

Palm Sunday is a day to be thankful that Jesus came to be with us.

A day to celebrate because Manny Pacquiao won, too. 🙂

A day to remember that life is good, no matter what.

Matters of the Heart

Sometimes learning things the hard way is inevitable. Especially when all the wrong elements are at play. 

Cheating, jealousy, lies and half-truths are those elements. With no trust, no concrete foundation of truth, a relationship is bound to fail.

When you can’t trust, everything will fall apart.

However, the naive person believes in everything he wants to believe as long as it fits the truth he wants to believe that gives a sense of happiness in love. 

Devastating events can of course, lead to the disintegration of the relationship.

The question is, can you still make it work?

The chances for that is extremely slim. 

What to do next?

Lick your wounds, chin up and move on. Life could have been worse but you’re alive, you’re here, you have another day to make it better.

My Sketch

As per Grandpa, what I sketched would be how Heaven would look like 10 years from now. 🙂

Bubbly Day

I love March. It’s nearly the end of the school year and most days, I get to spend time with my Heaven. We have been painting, dancing and playing with bubbles! Summer is just around the corner and we can’t hardly wait for it. Life is simply beautiful!